As a girl that recently got over a hard breakup, I figured that handling a breakup like a grown person is the best way.
Throw aside the beliefs that hooking up and sleeping with other men will make him jealous and want to get back together with you. The chance is that it’s just going to result with a contrary reaction, with him being even more put off and you creating a bad image about yourself.
Here are a few ways to get over a breakup as easy as possible and grow as a person from the experiences you had:
- Block them from your Social Media.
This is possibly the hardest thing to do when the breakup is still fresh, with you wanting to know what they are doing and stalking their profiles. But, let’s be real, how smart is this?
I think both of us can agree that you will get even more upset when you see him having a dring with a mystery woman r just having fun with friends. If now going to be a fun experience for you. Trust me.
If you can’t block him, do the next best thing — just hide his story from your feed and try to stop yourself from stalking his profile.
2. Move the stuff that reminds you of him out of sight.
This is the easiest way to stop thinking about him and the moments you shared together. Yes, ladies, move that picture of you have on your shelf and put it in a separate box (or in the trash) — out of eyesight.
And remember, out of sight — out of mind.
3. Take up a new “aggressive” sport.
Get all your range out on a punching bag, or you will be in temptation to beat up a stranger on the bus for taking your seat.
Ps. Yoga may not be the best choice at the moment.
4. Cry when you feel like it.
Don’t get stuck in that toxic mindset that he/she is not worth your tears. They may be not worth the tears, but if you feel sad at some moment, it’s not bad to let your emotions flow out with your tears.
Trust me, I’ve tried both mindsets and the second one is a better option. You will definitely feel better and at ease when you cry it out.
And also, keep this in mind, if you constantly hold in your tears, there’s a big chance your emotions will catch up with you in the worst time and the worst place. Trust me, it happened to me when I burst into tears at my workplace, for all my colleagues to see.
5. Write out your feelings in a letter directed to him, but never send it.
You would be surprised how it helps. Not only does it make you feel like you told him what needed to be said, but it also helps you figure out what you’re feeling at the moment and clear out your thoughts.
6. Think of good sides of the breakup.
There are always good sides to everything. Even if you’re in a situation that you can’t think of any good sides at the moment, think like this — the breakup will make you twice as strong as you have ever been and tree times as wise in life and especially your next relationship.
I know it’s pathetic as hell, but here are some breakup quotes that really have helped me:
“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” — Dalai Lama
“Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.” -unknown
“Sometimes you have to walk away from what you want to find what you deserve.” -unknown
I wish you all the luck for going through this breakup as easy and as soon as possible.
Lots of love, Kaja.